Here are
some 'red flags' to watch out for in a new partner:
1. He
makes decisions about where to go or what to do with little
or not input from you.
2. He
belittled your opinion when the two of you are alone and may
call you names.
3. He
makes disparaging remarks about you in front of others and
may talk about you as if you were not there.
4. He
may be rough during lovemaking and make you engage in acts
you do not like.
5. He
does not want to spend time with your friends or family and
insists you socialize with his people.
6. He
will not acknowledge your areas of expertise and may put down
what you do in the workplace - ignoring any of your accomplishments.
7. He
may openly flirt with other women and then accuse you of being
jealous when you object.
8. He
gets angry and loses his temper over trivialities. Stays angry
for a long time and attempts to blame all arguments on you.
9. He
may hit walls when angry.
10. One
of the main factors is that he comes on very strong in the
beginning of your relationship - sweeps you off your feet
- and wants an exclusive relationship too quickly. Many women
feel flattered at the intensity of the man's seeming need
for an immediate connection and consequently overlook the
inappropriateness of it.
This should
not be confused with 'love at first sight' where one or both
parties feel an instant connection - without any of the aforementioned
behaviors.
There
are many other factors that could be listed - but if the man
if your life begins displaying the above qualities, realize
it will not get better, only worse. He will likely be unwilling
to discuss his emotions openly and feel that women are the
inferior sex.
If this
describes your man, run - do not walk - out of his life! The
next step will likely be physical abuse.
Terri
Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma) has been a Psychotherapist for
over twenty years. She has owned and operated a brick and
mortar dating service and has also helped abused women through
individual and group counseling to improve their self esteem,
leave their abusive relationships and lead more fulfilling
lives.
Terri
invites you to visit her popular personalized and informative
50+ dating community at http://www.spicy-senior-singles.com.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline in the USA is:
800-799-7233
Check out Teen Dating
Violence, from a survivor of violence and Dating
Violence. Statistics show that one in three teenagers
has experienced violence in a dating relationship.
