I get
a lot of e-mails from young men who want to solve their
premature ejaculation problems. Often, guys are not sure
what is considered premature ejaculation. Although premature
ejaculation is the most common 'sexual dysfunction', it
is very difficult for them to discuss with other guys. A
man who can't get it up or keep it up, understandably feels
like less of a man. This of course is just not true. If
more guys were willing to talk about their problem, it would
be easier to accept, knowing that they are not alone.
By the
way, the average male takes less than three minutes from
the time of insertion until he ejaculates. According to
the technical definition, premature ejaculation is ejaculation
that occurs prior to when a man wishes, or too quickly during
intercourse to satisfy the partner. This usually leads to
the loss of a usable erection for the simple reason that
their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated
sexual tension.
According
to University of Chicago sociologist Edward Laumann, author
of a comprehensive United States sex study, 31% of men and
43% of women suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction.
One-third of men said they had recurring problems with climaxing
too early.
It's
important to understand that learning
ejaculatory control takes time and practice. You may
feel a little awkward along the way. Read “Kegel
Exercises”, this exercise helps a lot of men with
control. The issue, however, is really about control of
the ejaculatory process and releasing when you feel ready.
Men are usually more upset about the lack of influence over
when they ejaculate.
Early
release is not a major problem when it comes to reproduction.
Lasting longer in bed serves no known genetic function.
It is something that men must learn to do, as opposed to
being innate.
First,
one must understand what is happening to his body when he
ejaculates. Orgasm consists of two stages. The first begins
with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like
a tiny donut above the base of the penis. This contracts
and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the
seminal vesicle, into the urethra. The second phase occurs
when the pelvic muscle contracts strongly around the bulb,
forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure. Men should
be aware that it is possible to ejaculate without having
an orgasm and vice versa.
The
good news is that this is a problem that is highly curable,
providing the man is willing to get help and invest the
time and effort needed. It is believed that 80-90% of men
are able to learn better control through therapy.
Masturbating
before intimate contact helps a lot of men who tend
to complain of premature ejaculation. The first step to
lasting longer is to become familiar with oneself. Be comfortable
with your body, its sensations, and the feelings leading
up to orgasm. You should learn and be able to predict when
the orgasm will occur. This will prevent it from creeping
up on you and taking you by surprise. This will also help
you do what is necessary to prevent you from reaching that
"point of no return."
