Q.
I’m
getting a lot of UTIs (urinary tract infections), can this be
from oral sex?
A.
Yes it could be, but see your gynecologist for a urine culture
to find out exactly what organisms are causing your bladder
infections. You could also see your general health care
person, either way have a urine culture done. They may not
be from oral sex, but from your own bacteria. If you are getting
“a lot”, do your body a favor and get it checked
out.
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Q.
I am a lesbian, do I need an annual pap smear?
A.
YES, absolutely! It’s your body, take care of it. You
can still get cervical cancer, although the rate is probably
much lower among lesbians. I don't know of any studies done
to date on this. Also, you may not know if your partner has
had sexual intercourse with a man and may have gotten the
Human Papillomavirus. See HPV
or genital warts for more.
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Q.
I
have a very dry vagina and it makes sex or foreplay very uncomfortable.
Help?
A.
Think LUBRICATION!
There are lots of products
on the market today, most can be bought via the internet or
at your local Walmart, Walgreens, CVS, etc. Try “Wet”,
“Astroglide” or even generic KY jelly (water that
down a bit). *The new KY 'Warming Liquid' creates a warming
sensation and is a product that you might want to try. They
tend to be a bit expensive, but a little goes a long way and
all that I mentioned are safe to use with latex condoms. There
are also silicone based lubricants. These claim to “never
dry out” and are condom friendly. Look for my upcoming
article on “Lubricants”.
Another
thing that might be an issue is lack of foreplay. Maybe you
are just not sexually aroused enough. Take your time before
sex, lots of kissing and fondling should stimulate vaginal
secretions.
Or,
you might be taking a medication (like an antihistamine or
antidepressant) that do tend to dry out all your mucous membranes,
including the vagina. If this is the situation, you should
use a lubricant. Sometimes water helps too, but have a towel
handy!
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Q.
How can
I have multiple orgasms? I am able to have one easily, but
this frustrates my husband.
A.
Practice often helps. Practice by yourself if that helps you.
Your second orgasm usually occurs soon after the first, so
continue with intercourse as long as you don't have to worry
about the risk of pregnancy or STDs. (You're married, I’ll
assume you both are monogamous). Talk about what is 'working
for you' as far as getting you to orgasm the first time and
let it happen, don't obsess over it. If he can keep going,
you’ll most likely get there! :)
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Q.
I
am HIV positive and so is my boyfriend. I’m on the pill.
Do we still need to use condoms?
A.
Yes. There is more than
one strain of HIV (the CDC doesn't want to scare people, so
they don't talk about that enough), that’s what viruses
do, they mutate. You may actually have a different 'strain'
of HIV than your b/f. So, yes, use a condom. Your viral load
may also be different than his.
For more on HIV
and treatment check out these links. Good question, stay
healthy, see your health care provider regularly and take
your meds on time.
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